One, recently I saw a sigh, saying that Chinese society is in a bad state. Children don't listen, divorce rates are high, everyone doesn't want to get married and have children, and they can sell their dignity for a little money. Why has our nation with a fine ancient tradition become like this? The following has caused heated discussions, but in my opinion, most people haven't hit the nail on the head, they still don't understand the direction of human civilization.
Two, let me put it this way, Chinese people have been isolated for too long and don't seek deep understanding in many things, emphasizing a state of confusion. Why emphasize confusion? Because our monarchy has lasted for too long, people have developed a mentality of "it's meaningless to figure things out" and "questioning and resisting is useless". So our traditional culture is full of direct conclusions, but lacks logical reasoning. Anyway, we tell you that this is how it is: people should be filial, parents are the greatest; people should get married, more children and grandchildren bring more blessings; women should not have too much knowledge and thoughts, they should listen to their husbands... If you don't do these things, you will be despised by society, and no one comes out to explain why, they just say it's been five thousand years, it's the essence of traditional culture, it's because you don't understand.
Three, if you try to argue, you will immediately be attacked online - yes, that kind of attack and collective exclusion from the ignorant local people who don't seek deep understanding is the earliest form of online bullying. So under this social consensus, the spark of questioning was extinguished long ago, and then joined the army of online bullying - not only can you avoid being bullied, you can also join a group and bully others. Chinese society is not in a bad state, but the spirit of seeking truth and pragmatism in many things has just begun to sprout. This is a reflection that occurs when a society's productivity reaches a certain level and there is a questioning of so-called default consensus.
Four, children not listening reflects the rapid development of society and the fast pace of knowledge updates, and indirectly reflects the low learning and educational abilities of many parents; the high divorce rate and low marriage rate reflect people's reflection on the necessity of marriage. Behind it is not the collapse of the moral system, but people's non-wholehearted acceptance of past practices, reflecting independent thinking; the indifference between young people and their parents reflects the reconstruction of human relationships - we no longer accept the arrangement of fate that we must be close to those with blood ties, but rather interact based on shared interests and passions - yes, when a person sees more of the essence of life, they will have fewer boring constraints and pursue the maximization of their own interests in life. The reason why many people feel uncomfortable with such a society is precisely because they are burdened with too many shackles that they are unwilling to break, and they lack the courage to break them, so they don't want others to break them either. Because if everyone doesn't break them, the game is balanced within the same framework, but if you don't break while others do, you will be at a disadvantage in interactions.
Five, why lament, why call for action? It is to form a consensus again and use online bullying to trap those who have already broken free from these constraints. The essence of life is the process of seizing external resources to satisfy genetic needs. Don't make it too high and mighty, even if it's Tao Yuanming, Su Shi, or Li Bai, their pursuit is still inseparable from this essence, whether it's material or spiritual. So it doesn't matter how you live, as long as you can maximize this result, it is the correct approach. The pains of the times will exist, but in the end, a more excellent survival strategy will definitely emerge from the game. Isn't that much better than not daring to accept diversity in all aspects? For those who think this is not good, just silently follow the dogma, because if you really think that your way is better, why doubt life and society? Live your own life well and let others go to hell.